Ok, so here’s the thing I don’t get about online dating. I don’t have anything against it, keep in mind, I just don’t get it, that’s all. You can read all about someone, their likes and dislikes. They can be everything you may want, on paper. You can even see their photo and view them as “attractive” but how can you be attracted to someone without meeting them?
From my experience, priorities, such as ‘things in common’ or ‘items on your check list’ all seem to fade away when you meet someone and they just have that ‘it factor’ for you. The laws of attraction don’t make sense, philosophers for years have wondered it and i don’t think anyone can really explain it. Why are you drawn to some people, despite potentially having none of the items on your list for a partner, and why does that list seem to evaporate whenever they walk in the room. Why, as well, others who have posses every quality you have wanted all your life, you just don’t feel that spark or magnet attraction to. It truly is a “je ne sais quoi.” Its special, its what makes the world go round, its the thing that drives people to give up everything you have, yet no one can tell you exactly what it is.
So, when i am out and about, i don’t worry too much about meeting people who have similar interests to me, or a good job, or lots of money, I just walk around waiting for ‘it’ to hit me. Now, I’m a person with many failed relationships under her belt, and still looking that person with “it” who is also willing to stick around. So, maybe in hind sight, the people who are online dating have it right…. Talk to people with similar goals and life values as you do, and then wait for the “it.” Maybe I should try it their way first, before knocking it. Online dating world, here I come!!